Wednesday, October 20, 2010

First Date


I once dated this guy named Jason, a part-time model who was in a commercial for a popular facial wash a few years ago. It was a semi-blind date; I saw his commercial, so I knew how he looked like, but he had no idea how I appeared at all. For all he knew, I could be troll with a huge wart on my nose, but he agreed on the date, so I figured the person who set us up probably told him a lot of good things about me. We agreed to have dinner in Cafe Breton.

The moment I met him, I immediately thought that he was much better looking on TV. It surprised me just how short he was. A friend once said that commercial models tend to be shorter than ramp models, but I didn't know they could be that short. But he was cute, and I figured the date could still lead into something more interesting and fun.

When he saw me, he immediately launched into a tirade about how the taxi ride going to the restaurant was so horrible. The rant took a while, and it kind of set the tone for the rest of the date. He was pissed at everyone. I tried to act more upbeat, but he wasn't buying it. Our conversations felt awkward and contrived.

In the middle of dinner, a friend texted me that him and his boyfriend were hanging out in a bar in Greenbelt, a 10-minute walk from where we were. He asked me if I wanted to meet up. I figured the date couldn't get any worse, so I thought why the hell not? I asked Jason, and Jason said ok. I told him that if he didn't mind, I'd prefer to walk to the bar because I didn't want to go through the hassle of parking all over again. Jason said he didn't mind, although I did notice the shadow of a scowl on his face. I dismissed it, and thought it was probably just my imagination.

So we met with my friends, and had a few drinks. Jason was still in a dark mood, and at that point, I stopped caring. It was a first date for pete's sake, it's not supposed to be that hard. If he wasn't willing to have fun, there was no point forcing him.

On the walk back, he told me he was pissed at me because, he said, first, I made plans with friends even though I knew we were on a date. I told him that's why I asked for his permission first, and when he said yes, I took that at face value. There was no reason for me to think he was lying. He said, notwithstanding, I should have known it was rude in the first place. I didn't really want to argue, but I thought that him teaching me about manners was the height of irony. But I figured silence was my best friend.

Second, he said that he was angry because I made him walk to the bar. I told him I asked him about that too, and he also said yes, so I took that at face value. I didn't even know him that well; there was no reason for me to think he meant something else. He said I should have known he was already very tired from the horrible taxi ride he endured to get to the restaurant. He said I should have already taken that into consideration, and I should have known he'd be too tired to walk. I remained silent, mostly because I just wanted the date to end, but also because I didn't want to argue with him anymore. I thought of how stupidly difficult he was, and that for someone I've met for the first time, he acted too much like a longtime boyfriend. It was annoying beyond words.

The whole experience made me want to swear off dating models completely. If he was representative of the bunch, I figured I'd be better off dating adults. The date wasn't so much a date as it was babysitting a 12 year old. Looks can only go so far. At some point, we're going to have to have a conversation, and talking with someone who never stops whining is really just torture. Maybe the date would have been much better if he just kept quiet and looked pretty.


Photo taken here.

30 comments:

  1. Oh, dear. The date from hell, me thinks. I'd have run away screaming at the end.

    It reminds me of the one and only blind date I went on about 20 years ago. I can't remember his name but he was shorter than me (I'm just 5ft), wore a t-shirt that read "F**K Me", and spent most of the date talking about how much he loved New Kids on the Block. I still shudder at the memory of him asking if he could see me again. Noooooo!!!!

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  2. Man, what a jerk!!! Do you get the feeling that he was too full of himself?

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  3. A jerk indeed, one that requires a pair of glasses to see that fact himself.....

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  4. The gall for him to even assume you care so much about him...on a FIRST date! Maybe he got used to relationships wherein he feels like a king thinking that his face alone is enough to compensate his rude behavior.puh-leez!

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  5. Oh come on! The moment he ranted about the taxi you could have told him right then and there that you're not a sponge, you are a date, his date.

    You should have scoffed.

    Hehe.

    Just to get even.

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  6. wahaaha..it's really hard to date wimps and babies..

    and ow...whiners also...

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  7. What a boob! Suck it up Mr. Model, good grief! At least you stuck it out till the end...I might have just ditched him at the bar.

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  8. Hi, I'm so glad you came by today and prompted me to come and meet you! I'm looking forward to getting to know more about you and this blog of yours. I just read this post and think you had a lot of grace to get through that ordeal. Definitely move on, he clearly doesn't deserve your time!
    Thank you for your comment on my bloggversay, it was lovely to meet you!

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  9. Thats a cute image of your nerd, Oh Lord I feel sorry for the woman who ends up with him for life!

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  10. Sorry the date didn't turn out as well as it should have. The guy sounds like an idiot!

    CBG
    canadianbloggergirl.blogspot.com

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  11. I hate it when people are like that, especially when you first meet. This guy I never even meet thought I was playing games when I said I didn't want to go to his place. Whatever, apparently he's one of those primadonnas that don't need my attention.

    Sorry about the date.

    http://theadorkableditzmissteps.blogspot.com/

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  12. Wow! You are very nice to stick it out for the entire date. Thank goodness you found out early.

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  13. ugh...it reminds me of my first date with someone too...he was so lame!(he was also a model) god kill me now. sorry you had to go through that. :( models aren't the best, i guess. haha

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  14. i think you handled him pretty well. and that's the lesson i learned from your post. thnaks! ;-)

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  15. Hi,

    Thanks for your kind comment on my blog. I enjoyed your story. What an awful man!

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  16. What a reklamador. He rant from the beginning till the end. Maybe he thought he should be treated VIP since his a model.. but no, his attitude don't deserve it. Boohoo

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  17. I really don't understand why people can't just SAY WHAT THEY MEAN!!! I know a lot of people ask questions because they want the other person to tell them what they want to hear, but it's like you said, it was your first date and if you asked him a question like, "hey want to meet up with some friends/walk to the bar," why would should HE expect YOU to know what he wants. Pure silliness.

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  18. Oh Lord. I have friends who date people like that. It's hilarious to me when some people are so oblivious to the reality of most dating situations. Does he not understand what "first impression" means?

    At least you went to a bar. Smart move. I could use a shot after that nightmare date too!

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  19. What a douche canoe! And the fact that he didn't even try in the slightest to leave a good impression says a lot about him as a person. And although he didn't deserve it, good on you for not stooping to his childish antics.

    http://rantersbox.blogspot.com

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  20. first, @theempress.. "douche canoe" is so great!!!

    second, you are way too nice a guy to deal with crap like that from someone, I would have said see ya from the very start, I mean come on how tiring is sitting in a taxi while someone else drives you around?

    check out my blog @ amberlashel.com

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  21. Twelve year old's do not need babysitting, and if you would babysit one it would probably go smoothly cause the twelve year old would probably just do whatever the hell he/she wanted to do (watch T.V., go on the computer, and in my case...read and write.), sorry just had to get that off my chest haha.
    This guy sounds so freaking annoying and full of himself. He should just go in a hole, that's how rude he is, lolz. Wow see what bad moods do to a person though? Like I'm in a bad mood now and I'm taking it all out on this dude that I don't even know. Ah well...what are you going to do, eh?

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  22. Thank you for reminding me why I'm single!

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  23. Funny story. Well told! I'm following...

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  24. ^loved the comment cha... hehehe... nice one!

    anyway... models, models, models, when will they ever grow up (pun intended. lolz)? tsk. tsk. tsk.

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  25. obviously, his career is no good too coz he had to take a cab nyahahaha - Andrew

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  26. Thanks for the comments guys! Mwah mwah.

    @phunk: definitely. It was annoying.

    @talia: Awww, I forgot you are only twelve. You seem so mature. :-) Peace.

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  27. My Nephew is a part time model and therefore has dated a few models also. The last guy was french and in my opinion wasn't even all that but he continually made my Nephew feel like crap by telling him he was ugly and he slept with numerous men behind his back. I have told him 'no more models' so now he is dating a bank manager ha ha ha.

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  28. Have you seen the website My Very Worst Date? This would be a fun one to add. And you know, it could only have gone downhill if you'd kept seeing him.

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  29. OMG he was such a dork-face! He cant get mad at you for shit (excuse my french) you asked him and he said yes to everything...eh hello he should be mad at himself! It's not your fault he was a lame duck!

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  30. this was very well told, i felt like I was there. I plan to write an article addressing this issue. thanks http://www.savvyknowhow2.com

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